A Question From A Reader: About Regret


Dear C,

I don’t know if you wanted me to disclose your name, or you wanted me to keep it discreet, but for the sake of privacy and to avoid being sued, I will keep it this way. This might be the first time I post an entry based on a mail I received from someone who read my blog. I really appreciate it and, I am very sorry for the very very late reply. I don’t know somehow I didn’t get the notification 😦 I tried to reply to your mail, but I wasn’t sure whether the email address you’ve given me was a valid email address or not, but just in case you never received my reply, this was the answer of your question.

So, you asked me about my decision of dropping out Architecture School about seven years ago, and whether I regret my decision or not. You also wanted to know if it was the best decision for me. I will try to share my experience, but I think you shouldn’t take it as a ‘law’ or a ‘guidance’ of what you have to do. This should come back to you. Alright?

I never wanted to study Architecture, that’s the first thing you needed to know. The reason why I went for it was because my parents wanted me to do it. This taught me not to do something because someone else want you to do it, it should come from yourself. So, when I dropped out from Architecture School it was one of the best thing happened in my life.

I didn’t suck at it. I was quite good to be honest. I decided to quit not because it was difficult, and I want you to keep in mind that you shouldn’t give up just because it’s harder than you have had in mind. Okay? I stopped doing things that I knew wouldn’t get me anywhere because it wasn’t my dream. I knew since the beginning that I wouldn’t want to be an architecture anyway even if I graduated from Architecture School, so what’s the point of continuing being there.

No, I never regret my decision. I don’t know if it was the best decision, but I am happy with what I am doing now. I am studying the subject that I like, although it might not make me rich, like what some people has predicted before 😀 But damn, quitting Architecture School was so liberating at that moment.

However, when I dropped out, I have got something in my mind. I have decided what I was going to do with my life. Well, not instantly, but I knew which field I wanted to study. I hope before you decide to drop your education, you have got some idea what you’re going to do next.

I know it is hard to learn something that isn’t your passion, but I don’t think it is wise to quit just because it is difficult. I think you need to revisit your goal, and start questioning yourself why you went to Architecture School. You might want to rearrange your priority list or revise your life goal, and that’s fine too, but I think it is better for you to know what you’re going to do next before you let this archi-thingy go.

Hope that helps, and thank you for your mail 🙂

Good luck dear 🙂



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