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Is Life A Race?

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Seems like I couldn’t shake it off my mind since I came back from Indonesia last month.

Like usual, big events in our family means hundreds of friends and relatives gathered to give you their free opinion — yes free, you don’t even need to ask for it. Aunties are the worst of the kinds, because they do have blood relations with you, and they are in a higher position than you are in the family tree. A lethal combo in our culture.

It was much better that I had my husband with me last time I went back to Indonesia. It means that whenever I started to grit my teeth listening to these unwanted opinions, I have my husband to give me a reason not to blow up. Still a Mr. Fix-It, he will fix the situation — unknowingly, since he doesn’t understand a word my aunts said.

Anyway, on their last day in Solo (it was a beautiful sunny day, and much better with seeing them leaving), they made a comment about my sister’s pregnancy.

Great Comic from The Oatmeal: http://theoatmeal.com/comics/kids

If you think that when your sister is pregnant, your extended family will leave you alone being child-free, then you are totally and utterly mistaken. In fact, they were even more savage and fierce in telling you that you need to have kids as soon as possible.

One sentence that I couldn’t get rid of my brain is:

“Kamu kapan? Tuh kebalap sama adek…”

Which I could freely translate that to:

“When will you [have a baby]? Your younger sister has overtaken you…”

Overtaken?

Is this a race?

Haven’t they ever play “The Game of Life“? Everybody knows that anyone who finish first lived the most boring life!

But seriously? Is life a race though?

Is it about who graduate the fastest? Or who gets married first? Or get a job first? Be a mum first? It is an idea that I couldn’t get around to. I mean is it okay to ask someone who said that my sister overtook me because she got pregnant first by asking:

“When will you be dead though? You don’t want your younger siblings to overtake you, do you?”

Prost!

 

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A Golden Cage

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Beberapa hari terakhir di kampus memang lain dari biasanya. Yang biasanya penuh dengan mahasiswa, sekarang berhubung hari libur, penuh dengan calon mahasiswa dan ibu-ibu.

Memang ada sedikit hal yang berbeda di kampus ini dibandingkan di kampus yang lain. Kalau di kampus lain, mungkin kebanyakan mahasiswanya datang secara mandiri kekampus, atau pergi berombongan dengan teman-temannya, tapi di kampus saya ini semua dilakukan oleh ibunya. Bisa jadi hal ini disebabkan banyaknya mahasiswa pendatang dari luar Jakarta, membuat si Ibu menjadi khawatir melepaskan anaknya. Saya masih sedikit bisa memaklumi bahwa mahasiswa baru membutuhkan kehadiran sang Ibu.

Saya jadi ingat…

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Bhinneka…

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Berjalan-jalan ke sana kemari, blog walking membuat gwe melihat sesuatu. Sebenernya gwe udah melihat itu dari dulu, tapi mungkin baru kali ini gwe merasakan kebenaran dari apa yang selama ini gwe lihat. Entah mengapa, nggak banyak orang bisa melihat apa yang gwe lihat selama ini.

Gwe baru sadar, bahwa selama ini, negara yang mengklaim dirinya sebagai negara yang plural dan multikultur seperti Amerika ternyata juga punya kelompok-kelompok radikal yang rasis. Bukan hanya rasis kepada warga negara kulit hitam, tapi juga kepada kulit berwarna lainnya. Dan mereka mengklaim dirinya nggak rasis! Bukankah perilaku semacam ini hanya mengingatkan kita kepada kelompok lain yang sejenis di Indonesia?

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From Solo With… Love?

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Oh… Gwe belom woro-woro sebelomnya ya kalau gwe mau ke Solo? Baiklah, sekedar pengumuman, sekarang gwe udah ada di Solo setelah perjalanan yang penuh dengan cerita. Cerita tentang perjalanannya nanti saja, I just want to make it quick.

Gwe ada di Solo sejak beberapa jam yang lalu. Pendaratan berlangsung mulus. Langit cerah, tapi nggak panas menggila seperti di Jakarta. Hari ini terasa indah seketika. Ada yang iri dengan kepergian gwe ke Solo? *tertawa sinis*

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