Seems like I couldn’t shake it off my mind since I came back from Indonesia last month.
Like usual, big events in our family means hundreds of friends and relatives gathered to give you their free opinion — yes free, you don’t even need to ask for it. Aunties are the worst of the kinds, because they do have blood relations with you, and they are in a higher position than you are in the family tree. A lethal combo in our culture.
It was much better that I had my husband with me last time I went back to Indonesia. It means that whenever I started to grit my teeth listening to these unwanted opinions, I have my husband to give me a reason not to blow up. Still a Mr. Fix-It, he will fix the situation — unknowingly, since he doesn’t understand a word my aunts said.
Anyway, on their last day in Solo (it was a beautiful sunny day, and much better with seeing them leaving), they made a comment about my sister’s pregnancy.
If you think that when your sister is pregnant, your extended family will leave you alone being child-free, then you are totally and utterly mistaken. In fact, they were even more savage and fierce in telling you that you need to have kids as soon as possible.
One sentence that I couldn’t get rid of my brain is:
“Kamu kapan? Tuh kebalap sama adek…”
Which I could freely translate that to:
“When will you [have a baby]? Your younger sister has overtaken you…”
Is this a race?
Haven’t they ever play “The Game of Life“? Everybody knows that anyone who finish first lived the most boring life!
But seriously? Is life a race though?
Is it about who graduate the fastest? Or who gets married first? Or get a job first? Be a mum first? It is an idea that I couldn’t get around to. I mean is it okay to ask someone who said that my sister overtook me because she got pregnant first by asking:
“When will you be dead though? You don’t want your younger siblings to overtake you, do you?”